you're not really anxious about that

Think you're anxious about that test, that meeting, that upcoming holiday party? Think again.  It's what we tell ourselves about an event, not the event itself, that's usually to blame for stress.  The good news is that when we figure this out, we can reduce anxiety in no time.  Here's how it works. 

Think of the acronym "ETC" - as in it's not the event, it's the "etcetera" of the event that causes anxiety to rise.   Event. Thoughts. Consequences

E.  The Big Event.  "I'm invited for dinner with friends."
T.  Thoughts. "I'll say the wrong thing.  People will notice I've gained weight.  I'll be dressed differently than everyone.  I'll make the event awkward."
C.  Consequences.  Stress increases.  Self-consciousness increases.  "I'll make an excuse to not show up at all."

This hypothetical young lady tells herself that going out makes her anxious. But going out isn't the problem.  It's her thoughts, the "etcetera," that make her anxious. 

Without stepping foot in the restaurant, she's made four different assumptions, all negative, about what will happen. Without exchanging a word, she's given herself reason to worry about everything from her clothes to her waistline.  She's coronated herself "Queen of the Awkwards" without so much as a conversation. 

If our heroine gets herself some good counseling, she can avoid living the self-fulfilling prophecy of feeling isolated and awkward.  Focusing on the actual, not perceived, root of our stress allows us to make changes and get results.   

Call Debbie Granick today.  Talking may help.  Medication may help.  Find what works for you.  One person. One stop.  One step to better health.